Sunday, 6 July 2014
One of the other things that we do as adults (I am careful not to use the term 'grown up' as that is a bit scary) is make decisions. Oh I know we make decisions as a child - which TV programme to watch, what doll to play with etc but as an adult we have to make big decisions and it isn't always easy.
The problem as I see it is that making a decision nearly always affects someone else and I hate to be the cause of upset or problems for another person because of a decision I have made, essentially I do hate to let people down and I try never to do it.
In the last few weeks I have had to make a couple of decisions that have involved me pulling out of something that I had said I would do.
The life lesson in this for me is not one of putting on my big girl pants and just making the decision it is perhaps more of a realisation that I need to listen to my own intuition a lot more when these offers are made and before I rush into accepting them.
I teach about using and listening to your intuition, it is wise and usually knows exactly what we need to do a whole heap more than our brains do.
So I get an offer or a request to attend something or do something and being me I don't like saying no so I gaily jump in with both feet and say "yes of course, no problem" when in reality I should have listened to that little niggle of intuition that says "actually this isn't a good plan". Sometimes it is that I don't have the time to take on anything else, sometimes it is just the sheer logistics and finances of getting somewhere - my logical brain seems to take a vacation for a brief moment and in that space my mouth says "yes of course".
Listening to my intuition is something that I am increasingly doing and making decisions to step back from things that I really shouldn't have taken on in the first place without that huge dreadful feeling of guilt that I used to get. That after feeling of total guilt is now being replaced with one of relief.
Make decisions for YOU - sometimes people will be let down but you can't help everyone all of the time.
Trust your intuition - it won't let you down.