I seem to be spending an inordinate amount of time defending what I do, who I am or posts that I make on facebook at the moment and reading loads of negative doo doos from others.
Is it me or are the trolls and negative ninnys out in force?
So many supposedly enlighted spiritiual beings are fighting amongst themselves or judging others within their group (this phrase stolen from another religion springs to mind ... "He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her")...just a thought...
Groups and people sometimes go their own way...fact...life changes, people change, views change...but does it all then have to be plastered over facebook with the 'he said, she said' thing? Bearing in mind that versions of events related at a later date often aren't exactly how they originally started and even if the intentions are pure a story can be twisted and turned...accept that a split has happened for a good reason, remain friends if possible and go your own separate ways, move on with your life! My own personal rule of thumb? Judge a person on how they treat YOU, judge a person on how they speak to YOU, never listen to gossip, never rely on tittle tattle being the truth. If you weren't there, if you didn't hear it with your own ears or see it with your own eyes then it ain't your business or your concern. If you were directly involved, chalk it up as a life experience, learn a lesson from it, release it, let go of it and move forward - to do otherwise can only make you all bitter, twisted and most definitely squinky.
Now you all know that I am not a stickler for rules and that my Craft is made up from bits taken from all over the place that I have learnt along the way, my 'pick n mix' pathway - that doesn't make it wrong, in fact it makes it very, very right for me. But I never judge another for their pathway or how they make it work for them...so I ask that you don't do it to me.
On the Kitchen Witch facebook page we share all sorts of information from all sorts of places, for reference...because knowledge is power right? It doesn't mean we necessarily follow those practices, but others on the page might. We have even had lengthy threads on there berrating us for showing how to make an orange skin candle...and not warning people about naked flames and oil being flammable...seriously people? We are all grown ups and we would certainly hope that people know about not leaving a candle unattended...have we become such a 'nanny' planet that everything needs a health and safety warning on it?
And don't even get me started on the 'pagans shouldn't earn a living from spirituality' issue...that gets very old, very quickly. (Unless you are charging stupid silly money for things then you deserve all the negative energy you get thrown at you). Based on a lovely quote I heard last week - "share your knowledge and experience freely, but you need to charge for your time and materials".
I read a lot of books, I review a lot of books - some I like, some I love, some I am indifferent to and some I hate...if I don't like them ...simple - I don't write a review about them. My theory being that just because the book doesn't resonate with me, doesn't mean that it is a bad book, just means that it isn't for me, but for the next person it might be the best book they ever read. (Obviously if a book is so badly written, terrible grammar/spelling/punctuation etc or the content is clearly plagerised then that may well be a different scenario).
I love my life, I love who I am, I love the people I choose to have around me (mostly...unless you steal my cake, then there will be consequences...just warning you...) but it takes a lot of hard work, time and effort to create my own little part of this world, what you put out there comes back to you, seriously it does...
Whatever you do whether it is your hobby, your life, your business, your relationships - it all needs passion, effort and work - if you put 100% of that into it then you can rest assured that it will pay off. Oh you won't always please everyone all the time, we are humans after all and everyone has a bad day occasionally or wants the impossible, but as a general guide it works. Don't pass the blame onto others when things fail...
Be the person you want to be, be the person you would like as a friend, treat others as you would like to be treated yourself, be respectful, leave the grumpy pants at home...share the love man...♥